It was meant to be.........

Hey all,

Its been a while since I last blogged so I thought I would give you an update on how things are going for me so far.

I had been starting to live on my own since the divorce as mentioned and having to live and cope with my disability and depression with the meds etc.
Anyway,about nearly a month ago I was sitting at home watching TV with absolutely nothing on and to be honest I was bored out of my head thinking what can I do with my life? and will things get easier living and trying to cope on my own.

I had family that would ring me up and visit me to help with cleaning and helping me with other things that I couldn't do because of my disability and I was really grateful for all this help otherwise I just wouldn't cope with day to life and living so thank you family for all the help you have gave me thus far and you know I really appreciate it and I love you all!

Anyway,as I was just thinking and pondering what the future may bring for me the phone went off and I thought who would ring me as the only person that would ring me regular was my mum who had already rang earlier in the day.

I picked up the phone hesitantly and a female had said "Hello Dave this is Chrissie,Juliet's Mum?"
This lady Chrissie who I knew from about 23 years ago and I was dating her daughter Juliet when I was a teenager!
I had seen Chrissie on a few occasions when she worked in a newsagents when I was married and I always got on with Chrissie when I was dating Juliet.
I always said hello and was asking about Juliet and she told me at the time she was married and I thought she must be happy and has her own life now.
Anyway,these visits to the newsagents talking to her mum then turned on to a few home visits when she came round for tea and we talked more and more and kept in touch.
When my ex wife started cheating on me (from previous blog) Chrissie was told about the situation on her last visit when I was living at my ex's house and from then on I lost contact with her but gave her my mobile number.

I was at my new address and had recently been divorced when I got this call 'out of the blue' and we were just talking about life in general then she said "I have been talking to Juliet your ex and she is going through a bad divorce like you did and I can give you her email address if you like because she would like to hear from you.
I felt like a teenager again and felt funny inside as Juliet was my soul-mate and my childhood sweetheart 23 years ago and when we parted we left on good terms and I always kept thinking about her all through the years since we parted wondering whether she was OK and happy and when her mum told me in one of my earlier meetings with her that she was married, I thought she has got to be happy now in her new life but unknown to me at the time she wasn't and had an awful 13 years of marriage like me.

The morning after I had sent Juliet an email and I had got an instant message saying about whether I wanted to talk on the phone and I instantly said yes.
When we started talking we instantly got on really well just like we did 23 years ago and it was like this is our time to meet again and it was fate and meant to be.
To cut a long story short,we are now back dating each other and seen each other on a few occasions now and we are so in love and that love is so special and we both have admitted this love is real and special and we have never felt this way since we were dating all those years ago.

We have also realised that we both went down the wrong paths since our split and had unhappy lives but now it's like someone above had always meant that we were going to meet again and be happy for the rest of our lives.
And we believe in that and we are already talking about living with each other in the future,getting married and having children.

I just now feel the happiest man in the world and I am looking forward to the future with something to live for and be happy and enjoy life forever!

A new life and a new start?
Yes it sure is,it was meant to be!

Has anyone had similar experiences they would like to share?
Has anyone found true love like me?
Please respond as I would love to hear any stories similar thank you.

Dave H

Hello to all bloggers!

I am new to this and I thought I'd just start something off to share to the world about a new start in life.
Here goes......
I was married at the time and I also had a beautiful daughter who is currently eleven who I adore and everything was OK as I had a job,was healthy and family life with my daughter was just great....
However,I had an accident at work as I slipped over when I worked for a supermarket on nights on the frozen department.
I also have a medical condition called Ankylosing Spondilitus but that 'slip' was going to cause me a horrific and sad outcome unknown to me at the time.
With that slip I had sadly lost my job on medical health grounds and had to retire against my wishes as my condition started to get worse....

This was about two years ago now when this happened  but that was not the only thing....
About a year ago my wife who I was married to for 13 years couldn't cope with my worsening disability and as I was immobile I couldn't do the things like I did before I.E. going out,taking my wife to the pub and taking my daughter to the coast for instance as I was and still am in alot of pain.

I started to notice my ex-wife to be was going out alot with her 'friends' and coming back late on a regular basis.
I didn't think nothing of this because all I wanted was for her to be happy considering she had to put up with me.

However, those late nights turned into sleepovers with her so called 'friends'  which at the time I trusted her and that she was letting her hair down and chilling out which I thought was the perfect remedy considering the burden of looking after me etc.
Then one night when we were at home together,I wanted to speak with her about something and when I went to the bedroom she was holding and reading a letter which she quickly hid under the bed covers.

I said to her "Who is that letter from?" She at first said it was a friend  so I said "Why hide the letter so quickly?" She replied "You made me jump that's why" I thought that was a bit strange but believed her at first but thought something was a tad suspicious......
The next day she went out and I had that 'letter' on my mind and I had to just find and read it.
After looking around the bedroom I finally found the letter hidden under the mattress and it was in a folder so she tried to hide it as best as she could.

To cut a long story short she was having an affair with an older man and when I confronted her she was denying everything at first but I couldn't believe it considering she knew I had seen the letter.
She finally admitted to the affair and blamed me for it but I knew what it was about it was my disability and she couldn't cope with it.....
I always believed and trusted the wedding vows of 'till death do us part' and 'in sickness and in health' but my ex wife to be had broken that vow.
I was absolutely gutted,destroyed and devastated over this as I thought how can my disability do all this?

On top of my disability, I now have severe depression and anxiety caused by all this and taking meds to help me on top of the meds for my disability.
I was also upset and really hurt with how my eleven year old daughter who was nine at the time and has learning difficulties would cope with losing her daddy etc as the ex-wife to be wanted me out and wanted a divorce.

Now two years on,the divorce is nearly granted on her grounds,I have a new place living on my own and I get to see my darling daughter for weekend stays twice a month.
The only thing that still hurts me even to this day is when my daughter has to go home and she cries for her daddy which upsets me immensely.
I still have my medical condition with the anxiety and depression  but what I wanted to ask was.....

Is this a new life and a new start?
Will things get easier?

I hope so.......
Also,I would love to share any similar experiences with you bloggers out there and that I am not the only one so please respond if you can.

Look forward to hearing from you.

Dave H.